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This web site was created in loving memory of my son, Todd James Lee, March 4th, 1981 to June 6th, 2003. Todd's life ended abruptly at age 22. Evidence indicates a product containing ephedra caused his death.

Gone, yet not forgotten, although we are apart,

Your spirit lives within me, forever in my heart...

Todd was a handsome, sweet-spirited young man. Everyone who met him loved him. I not only lost a son, but a best friend as well. He was a wonderful, son, brother and friend who is missed by all those lives he touched. Todd had a wonderful attitude about life. He was proud of who he was and recognized the growth he received from all his life experiences. He was such a gentleman, remembered by many for his remarkable sense of humor.
He achieved his goal since fifth grade of being in the U.S. Air Force and served his country with pride, honor and confidence. He graduated from tech school two months before he died. He had just celebrated his one year anniversary in the U.S. Air Force days before he died.
He listed Germany, Hawaii and Oklahoma City as his preferred locations. I was blessed with his being stationed in Oklahoma City where his Mom lives. At the time I thought it was unusual, not knowing God's plan. I am thankful He blessed me with this time with my beloved Todd before his untimely death. Not a day goes by that I don't miss him.
Please scroll to the bottom to view the slide show and share some memories.
If anyone has pictures of Todd that I don't have, please upload them to this website or email them to me through the link above.
Thank you for visiting.

NEWS STORY ABOUT THE PRODUCT THAT KILLED MY SON, EPHEDRA


And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
Revelations 12:4 (King James Version)
 


 

Quotes about Todd from Dan Hurley’s book, Natural Causes.

“He was pure and kindhearted and intelligent. There was no ego with him. He had a really good philosophy on life”.
“I could talk to him about anything. Stuff with our family—me and him would stick together. He was a really good listener. He always bragged about me because he thought I was real mature for my age".
Hurley, Dan. Natural Causes: Death, Lies, and Politics in America’s Vitamin and Herbal Supplement Industry. New York: Broadway Books, 2006 p. 119


  “Death is not a period, but a comma in the story of life."
Amos Traver

"If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden."
Attributed to Claudia Ghandi

"Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytme, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell."
Edna St. Vincent Millay

“Grief is…the impotent rage of being born into a universe of change.”
Charles Garfield

"The pain of grief is just as much a part of life as the joy of love, it is perhaps the price we pay for love."

 

Tributes and Condolences
060612 TODAY ITS 9 YRS SINCE U WENT TO HEAVEN   / Camille Lee (Mom)
My beloved son, Todd, On this day nine years ago, you left us. I make this trubute to you. I light candles to your memory and hold you close in spirit. I know you're watching over me and your legacy lives on in my heart. Endearing, aggravating, funn...  Continue >>
My Fellow Wingman   / Jentrey Smith (Friend)
I had the pleasure going to High School and working with Todd. He was an outgoing guy and a hard worker. I am also in the Air Force and I am currently writing this e-mail from Baghdad, and I have a story to tell you all. It had been a ...  Continue >>
ONE OF MY FAVORITE GUESTBOOK ENTRIES   / Camille Lee (Mom Forever & Always )
Date:2/5/2004 Time:7:45:07 AM (CST) Name:SSgt Thomas "Hollywood" Rogers Location: San Antonio Texas Referred by: Aiman Boos Comments: Airman Lee was a model of one of the reasons why I came down to Lackland to be a Military Training Instructor. Pride...  Continue >>
Poem about Friends "What be a friend"   / Deidre Graham ((Friend of Todd's) )
Friends are the shelter for emotional turmoil and sometimes even the cause of.
They are your safety deposit box for your memories and thoughts.
They will remind you who you are when you forget and where you
come from when you get cock...  Continue >>
Smile of a lifetime   / James Barry (Friend)
It's hard to believe its been so long, I can still remember this Friday even after so long. I was a SrA at the time. A couple of us were getting things squared away for the weekend. We all laughed and joked the whole day. Todd and I would discus...  Continue >>
todd / Joy Upshaw (friend)    Read >>
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His legacy
A Summary of the Worst Day of My Life - June 6, 2003  

Todd’s unforeseen death occurred on June 6, 2003 at the young age of 22. A part of my very heart and soul and future died with him. He was my son, my best friend and my family.
His sister and my daughter, Shayna, lost her brother who was also her best friend, as well as the mother she knew who was never to be the same again. Everyone loved Todd and there are many he claimed as a best friend and many who saw him as a best friend.
That day started out as any other day. The only complaint he voiced of any discomfort was of a stomachache a couple of times that week. I went to a convenience store the evening before his death and bought some heartburn medicine. He voiced no complaints the day he died. He seemed a little tired but he had just got off work and worked outside on this hot, humid day and the day before. He worked that day, Friday, and the previous day, on the flight line at Tinker Air Force Base, welcoming men and women coming home from Iraq. He had also done physical training that morning.
We left together after his work to go to Ardmore, OK, an hour and a half drive, to get his sister, Shayna. I was already on base at his apartment because he had locked his keys in the car at lunch time and asked me to bring the other set of keys to him. He lightly napped on and off during the drive both ways. We arrived back in OK City and had just started east on I-240 heading to Tinker Air Force Base to get my car. He started waking up and was motioning to put the pass to get on the base on the dashboard or let him drive. I at first thought he was yelling at me and said "Don't yell at me".
I sensed something was wrong. When I looked at him, his left hand that I could see looked clenched or unnatural. I couldn't see his eyes because he had sunglasses on. I said "Todd!" and then I saw one tear roll out of his left eye. I knew something was horribly wrong and drove like a mad person over to a store at I-240 and Sunnylane Road - the next exit. Shayna's friend was sitting behind Todd had reached forward to feel for his pulse but couldn't.
I ran in the store screaming for someone to call 911. When I ran back outside, a crowd of people had gathered around. Shayna was crying. I remember people pulling Todd out of the car. I remember seeing Todd's head hit hard on the concrete as he was pulled out. An employee of the store heroically performed CPR on Todd. We found out later this employee was retired from the same squadron as Todd's.
Todd had just completed one year of his six year term a few days before his sudden death. He had graduated from tech school two months before he died and was stationed at Tinker Air Force Base in Oklahoma City. He listed Germany, Hawaii and Oklahoma City on his "wish" list. He served his country with pride and honor.
Evidence indicates a product containing ephedra caused his death. He had gained some weight during tech school and began taking an all-natural weight-loss supplement and multi-vitamins several months before he died. He had quit drinking soda, was drinking lots of water, eating by the pyramid plan, working out regularly and taking three different multi-vitamins. Results of reports indicate Todd was not taking more of the weight-loss product than recommended on the label.
We now know that these all-natural products aren't tested.

My Thoughts About My Beloved Son, Todd James Lee  

Todd was "TJ" when he was a newborn babe until about age 10.  He decided he wanted his full first name "Todd" stamped on a western belt we bought for him.  From that day forward, he wanted to be called Todd.   
He was very smart. He scored in the 99 percentile and was placed in gifted classes in first grade. 
He was a very active and outgoing child who grew into a young man with a calm nature.  I can't remember him saying a bad word about anyone.  He usually acknowledged everyone he passed in the hall at work or college with his loving smile and sometimes with a sincere "How are you?" 
One of his friends commented that when Todd asked her how she was doing in her college classes, he sincerely wanted to know rather than just making conversation.  One of my friends said "He was an old soul" because he was such a good listener for his young age and usually had something comforting or enlightening to say.   
He had lots of self-confidence.  He would take time and great care in getting his clothes prepared for an evening out.  He loved to go out to eat, go to movies or go dancing.  He worked out regularly even before joining the U.S. Air Force.  He was a very polite, respectful and charming young man.  Everyone he met couldn't help but love him.   Many adults older than he have yet to reach the level of insight he had.
He had an attitude that is reflected in the Mother's Day card from May 2002 pictured in the photo album section. I refer to this card frequently for comfort. It is a small floral card he gave me with an ivy plant on May 13, 2002.  Here are the beautiful words on the card:
"Dearest Mom" on the outside envelope
"Dear Mom,
You are the most important person in my life. I love you so very, very much!
Thank you so much for your support and guidance. I would not be the man I am today without your support. You really are a terrific mother! and You are also one of the most good-hearted people that I know. I feel very lucky to have been your son and best friend! The two of us are survivors and share some stories nobody else will ever totally relate to (or believe) Ha Ha!! I feel these next few years are going to be very productive for the both of us. Love Todd"
I will never forget this Mother's Day in particular. Todd and I worked at the same place, the Williams-Sonoma Corp. call center. We were also roommates and shared expenses. I was tired and didn't feel like going anywhere. Todd persuaded me to let him take me out to eat at On the Border restaurant. 
He died one year and 24 days later after he accomplished his goal at the young age of 22, to be in the U.S. Air Force. He had written a paper in fifth grade about wanting to be in the U.S. Air Force.  He knew what he wanted to do and accomplished it before he died at the age of 22.

 

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Todd May 2002
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